avoidant

In these fevered anxious-avoidant couplings, one person is forever feeling abandoned; the other overwhelmed and criticised.

The 25 percent or so of the population with avoidant traits have options.

Unlike the avoidant, the anxiously attached have experienced love, but they will have had to suffer grave dangers too: someone dying or going away, someone changing their mood or finding a new family to live with.

Whereas the avoidant must wonder with equal sadness and fury why it can’t be enough to have told their partner they loved them fourteen hours ago and not to have looked at a single notification since then.